Same here. My ex-12th Houser has Venus/Cancer which made it difficult for him to open up, unless it was totally on HIS terms. Or someone is misleading someone (deliberately or otherwise). What he did to you was cowardly. Each person shares secrets, and even unconsciously. I wonder what the key is to making these unusual relationships work.. http://www.nodeorama.com/viewtopic.php?id=2480, http://www.astrologyweekly.com/forum/showthread.php?t=6930. We easily know what the other needs without words. No way, jose. This house holds many lifetimes of memories. but I must admit they FASCINATE me!! But it just feels like i knew him before. I started seeing a guy whose Venus is in my 12th house as well as his Mercury in my 12th house. I mean your spirits are communicating with each other, that type of thing. It means he needs to work through then and the only way to do this is to, effectively lie to you, so he can havevtgecspace he needs to work through his issues. November 9, 2012 astrologyanonymous27 5 Comments. His Venus and Jupiter fall in my 9th house. We are obsessed with eachother. There will defo be issues and concerns regarding faithlessness, as Gemini males are often butterflies flitting from flower to flower chasing that honey, lol!!! It felt a bit cruel because he acted as if he was so I felt led on as he observed me slowly falling in love Anyway With my heavy Saturn influence ( Venus in cancer in 10th opposite Saturn + stellium in 4th house) I dont do well with non committed relationships and I felt what he did lacked integrity so I just left it there as I would not have been fulfilled. Let me you move along. You will find yourself smitten to this house person. You WILL find an emotionally available, decent man if you dont settle on lesser models. Here are the examples i want to share with you. Accept all plexaderm rapid reduction serum in india Manage preferences. I dont feel he doesnt love me enough. Feel free to elaborate in the comments. We re still connected somehow bit in a weird way :(. I then felt like the reason why it felt strange to me seemed to be that I was picking up his symptoms rather than experiencing illness myself (there was also "a fog" kind of feel to it too.) Often, there is a distinct feeling of mistrust in these scenarios, especially on the part of the planet person. In re: to the 12th House attractions, not surprisingly, I always attract Gemini natives mostly Lunar Geminis, or those with Gemini strongly paced in their chart; i.e., Mercury, Venus or Mars. We may still be able to figure it out. He was a cancer rising, Scorpio moon, sun in Gemini in the 12th. Definitely feels fated/destined/telepathic/psychic. Hello Everyone,I can relate to alot of the post that I've read. His Moon is in my 12th House, and my Venus is in HIS 12th House, thus I felt captured by him. The Sun person sees in the 11th house person someone, who they can spend pleasant time with. Its surprising how much love I have for him but it all seems so complicated in his head/heart that I choose not to act on my feelings and just let time do its job. Although my guy is very vulnerable with me as well, he is still more controlled than I, in the sharing of deeper things (probably his Scorp rising). Romance and excitement are part of this synastry contact and it can show a relationship that feels as if it is developing too fast. I don't know where my venus falls in his chart. Yes I do think that it's a possibility with his Neptune in your 12th its a very intuitive and psychic connection. and it was unreal and he sat down at our table and I felt like my entire body was on fire. Just not every second. All we can do is hope for something good in the future! He scares me sometimes because he has a violent tendency and I think he activated my 12th house because all of a sudden Im afraid to be with him for the rest of my life even though I know we were made for each other. It's true this house can be heavy, it's the house of hospitals, psychotherapist, prisons, too. This person also has natal Neptune in their 7th house and MY Neptune falls in their 7th house. Its unbelievably painful. The 12th house is about secrets, fears, the subconscious, criminal activity, spirituality, ghosts, dreams, meditation, retreat, solitude, imprisonment, museums, hospitals, institutions, merging, imagination, the intangible, secrets, and the ways that you sabotage yourself. I think that aspect makes you see what you want to see in the other person, but not what is actually there. I have a very bad experience with someone's mars on my 12th house. Jupiter i Mars is aggressive by nature but the sign and house, and aspects made to him will alter how he plays out in synastry. Not in a bad way though. Its like that alcoholics anonymous quote of acceptance of who you are thats why its not good for people to judge other people because they are not and never understand how to live in their shoes. I can relate to most that has been said: Psychic, Fated, Spiritual, highly-accepting, Secretive & perhaps in ways obsessional/unrequited. Sounds karmic or so I think. just keep on going in the OPPOSITE direction away from me as FAR AS YOU CAN!! Absolutely killing me .He was in love then all of a sudden he wasn't and said we couldn't sleep together anymore . We exist in very different worlds and it just is not convenient to tell him. Venus Synastry in the Houses PATH-STROLOGY Utilizing Astrology to Find Your Path Home Natal Placements / Aspects Synastry Placements / Aspects Composite Placements / Aspects Planet: Sun Planet: Moon Planet: Mars Planet: Venus Planet: Jupiter Planet: Uranus Planet: Pluto Asteroids + Points Celebrities / The Infamous Past Life Astrology Same thingsso magnetiche is plutonian, and his pluto trine my moon and sextile my venus and semisextile my sun. We were both unhappily married, I was her manager at work, she was head over heels for me immediately, I didn't even know she liked me for months. Im so obsessed with him. I can not understand entirely the situation just based on those aspects there is a lot to Astrology I would need to see all the charts in order to properly comment any further. And also what are your thoughts on Venus in the 12th composite chart vs the synastry chart? inscryption cards. In all cases this is really karmic moment. Positive aspects and conjunctions between Venus' show that the two people view love in a very similar way. when i came back there was this weird thing between us. From the start. You say hes your EX-best friend. He inspires it or mirrors it and you feel close to him because of this. afterall i suspected him of being phony and saw a fakeness in his eyes.it's not that i have not learned from the previous lesson. He has trouble verbalizing his feelings but he said he's always been like that. This is the area of life devoted to spirituality, imagination, confining institutions, and secret enemies, the hidden side of life; in synastry, the impact of one person's planets on another's 12th House indicates the manner in which they affect their spiritual experience and either promote or retard the other's own self-undoing. Ultimate Bulletin Board 5.46a, Powered by Infopop www.infopop.com 2000 Venus trine Pluto, sun and Saturn trine. You need to be clear in areas such as this, find out why you met this person or they you? I have to admit that I, with my usual 3/Sag and 3/Leo stelliums went after HIM because I was so sure he was my soul mate. i have a guy who i'm so into him , he have his sun, venus, mercury and jupiter in gemini on my 12th house. Very easy. Wow! To me and my daughter since we both dont have our dads. In a way you don't care for.Look at your Sun & Saturn since that represents the father as well, with the way you feel look for afflictions. Im so sorry for the delay! Sent 3-5 times a week. My own Dad was a Sun/Gemini native who made TWIN SIGN siblings (he was a classic Gemini man with multiple marriages and households, lol!) At least I know I'm not the only one who is going through this. I feel I just love him unconditionally no matter what, I dream of him a lot, I have fantasies too but I keep this all to myself, a secret. Mars is a aggressive action oriented planet and again as always it would depend on the individual who is activating your 12th house. The same potential is there with composite charts and a lot of 12th house emphasis. Should I run now?? He seemed very interested at first but the moment he felt I was getting attached he used the I am not looking for a relationship card. Such a mystical house - offers so much yet sometime so little. We work well together and it is always professional. Sent 5 times a week. How does it affect synastry when one partners personal planets land in the others 12th house? SYNASTRY: VENUS IN THE HOUSES. Juno in Twelfth House. He does tell me how he feels about me. You are using an out of date browser. Pisces is the sign without boundaries. Venus-Uranus in Synastry May 10, 2013 astrologyplace Those with Venus conjunct, square, or opposite Uranus in Synastry create exciting sparks in relationships. Mine lasted for nearly 3 years amid a ton of torment, aching for his love, trying to understand the hostility, the mental/spiritual abuse, trying to help him .. all SORTS of goodies/1 In the end, it was me that jumped ship; who needs that kind of nonsense in ones life? His Mars conjunct my Saturn opposite my Pluto. Okay, this advice is not even remotely astrological, but take it from a person who dated a lot, and always with an intention to settle in a committed relationship. Also VenusianMoon, the outside person (your boyfriend?) In fact, I was his spiritual company for more than the twenty years we spent apart. and weirdly 12th house does later show the othher person to live in those shoes. In hindsight, I now believe that my 12th Houser is just that. Because people that are confident don't usually like to point out other's weakness's or make them feel bad. This Venus might even feel that there's something magnetic in their partner. However, it was my Venus in his h12th. I understand this. I've actually read that in terms of unrequited love, the Venus person tends to love the 12th house person, but the house person can't return the love because the Venus person doesn't express their love clearly when in the 12th, and that love isn't recognized in order to to be returned. I leave, but I always come back after a while. And also a lot of Saturn and Neptune going on. I'm not about mind-games or double messages or emotional landmines waiting in the trenches. As if it was not enough he has moon conjunct pluto in the 5th and Venus square Pluto and Venus trine Saturn. Some are evil and just want to get in your pants. As somebody with a 10th house stellium, including Mars, Moon, & Venus with Aries on the midheaven-if somebody fails to openly display their feelings for me, I'm gone. To this some spice adds venus/neptune square. Its a bit of a puzzle, really, and I may not be explaining it clearly, but I do see what you mean, Elsa, in mirroring tendencies. Ironically, your experience sounds much like my own, excepting my 12th Houser turned mean and abusive, even though I was ARMS OPEN to him at all times. It is spiritual for both people, but sometimes this is why the relationships seem to be so painful if they end. Then when I tell him, he has this quiet way of breaking through all the **** and getting to the heart of it, but in a really gentle way. Im not about mind-games or double messages or emotional landmines waiting in the trenches. We have opposite rising signs. All of the guys whom I'm involved above have stellium especially benefic planets in my 12th house. His Venus squares my Vertex. , Hey I would like to know more about the 12th house synastry I have my bfs Venus Jupiter and I think another place landing in my 12th house but my sun sign, Mercury, and Jupiter are all in the 12th house so idk if that has a lot to do with why its so easy to connect with him because I read and obsessed over a secret relationship but its way out in the open all over social media on both side and his family knows all about me and my family knows all about him Im just so confused like yea sometimes Im thinking hes not telling me all his feelings but I feel like I know him on a deep level and then I feel like I dont like he seems too good to be true it makes me automatically not want to trust him .. hmmm. It turned into something of a horror show, and although I made the decision to cut all ties, every time I would weaken and go back I would get BLUDGEONED emotionally and psychically. He also has his natal Sun, Venus and Mercury in his 12th house. And the worst part is I cant tell if hes going to be my salvation or my greatest self sabotage and final, complete ruination of my life. You have long-lasting and intense affection for this individual. He enjoyed the attention and games for sure and he had a Gemini ruled 12th house. If the person is a good person they can point out our weaknesses and bring them to light so we can move forward with the knowledge that they have to help us be more aware of our unconscious behaviors. It's amazing. He shows me he cares with actions and he has told me twice he is in love with me. Here is a formula: Unless a guy acknowledges his feelings for you within a month, maybe 2 months (or 10+ dates) of serious dating openly, plainly, simply, without subtext, without mindgames or alternate plan Bs in his head,drop him. :) Would also love to read about Double Whammies in the 12th if you have any info. Please see special article on The 12th house synastry along with Neptune Moon Aspects for the descriptions will explain in greater detail. He might love you but in his own way. 12th house is about what you cant grab, so it applies to his affection as you perceive it. So, know that their insecurities and feelings may get in the way of connective relationships. He makes me breakdown so many barriers. This site uses cookies to help personalise content, tailor your experience and to keep you logged in if you register. We have other aspects in synastry that are more positive, but the Mars issues come up a lot. I still dream about them and I wonder if I bother them in their dreams toolol, I have had a short lived adventure with a man back in 2013. Especially natal charts and composite charts. Now, the twelfth house is a tricky house when it is activated in synastry. What he/she hates in something, i can see that they do the same thing, but they cant see it. In synastry, composite, transits, solar returns.always the bringing the worst. It's difficult to let go with the person who touch our 12th house. Venus in 12th House Synastry Overlay If your Venus is in your partner's 12th house of a synastry overlay, you find yourself deeply moved in strange ways by the house person. Right up to this year I have still been battling my feelings in re: to the guy I was totally swept away by. This happens for me with my Neptune in the 1st house I can take in people's feelings, illness or a array of different things that pass through me temporarily. the Venus person is allured into the partner's magical 12th house and held a dear captive there, but in NO way the Venus person would admit (willingly) that they have such strong feelings of love and adoration for the 12th house person. Otherwise we kind of don't touch. They may feel a strong sense of familiarity or a deep emotional bond that is difficult to explain. Ya, I think we both feel a very strange draw to the other. Hmm idk all of this is confusing.. now I will admit we do mirror each other a lot and both get mad at each other for things that we both do because we both know what the other one is actually doing its kinda annoying I see a lot of things about myself in him .. we have a baby on the way we both work super hard and always together I had an astrologer tell me I probably wont ever meet his family and I met them all and also in another state same for him so Im confused with this, Sometimes 12th house synastry is easier if you have strong Neptune placements or 12th house placements because your more familiar with it. I really have no idea whats going on but we have crazy placements, if anyone wants to discuss further please let me know!! However I have to say until now he has been writing twice a year sending me wishes bday and Xmas. But as his Sun is caught up in my 12th House, he now and then tries to make an appearance. You might also note that he has Venus/Gemini very problematic, IMO! Obsessive, perhaps a bit and with your planets in the 8th I am sure it's not one way:). But I guess with the 12th house influence I may never know. The 12th House is also known as the House of mystery while Venus symbolizes intuition and artful communication. My Venus conjunct his north node in 12 Pisces , and his Venus conjunct my vertex on desc ..From my part, I felt the karmic connexion.I was sure I need to do something with him, teach him something, Learn something from him..and I felt the sexual attraction also ( we have Sun/Pluto in 8 Scorpio) but,guess what? He said, he hadn't and he just hoped we could be good friends when he returned. thanks for visiting! The Venus would be read as being in your first house since the conjunction is so close to your Ascendant. I'm not all that great with articulating stuff that's not of this world. He was everything I wanted from a man, he broke all my barriers, and he was what I want to become as we run in more or less same line of business. Any info i'll share with you later. It is sometimes necessary to give people the spacevthey need, even if it hurts. This woman matched all of his criteria (tall, slim & fair). One is Taurus and the other is Libra. It's as if nither of us are ready to let go fully. That 12th house is a tricky one, and both charts would be helpful in sorting through all that. Thank you for any input/comments. In synastry, when someone's Venus is in your 2nd House, this person is a supportive influence for you. Venus in 12th entirely depends on how well both people can handle Neptune. As for this guy, hes telling you all you need to know. Venus is the Roman counterpart to the Greek goddess, Aphrodite, and she is the female counterpart of the Roman god of war and conquest, Mars, who is also the namesake of one of the big eight planets in astrology. Is your 12th house tenanted then? He is much older than me, far better positioned, with flaws, yet a hero to me. As a rule, it is generally the house person who feels the energies the most. I can relate to almost all you've been saying. SYNASTRY: NORTH AND SOUTH NODE CONNECTIONS. I think anyway 12th house is involved. On top of this, his Pluto is either square or conjunction my NN, Im pretty sure its the square. Hi thank you for visiting! As if something beyond ourself is guiding us.what is this shit, ive been asking me many many timesand is there a way to get over this?? At last i also found out that he was hidding some parts of his life. No he is the Venus in Cancer. He seem to know all about me even i don't tell or exposed my darkest psyche to him. I find myself wondering if it's happening because maybe I am picking up on him obsessing about it. His moon fall in my 5th house. From: Georgia. ------------------Air woman. Im all thumbs up, though, for those who do not nave the bad effects of a 12th House synastry. . A example of how the hidden fears thing of this house works is that we often will have a bad dream about something we are afraid of happening or suppressed anger, and and fear can bring us nightmares. NO THANKS!!! I would be very interested as always in hearing about any findings or further experience or information you can conjur up! The feeling that I am the only one dealing with the 12th house issues is so painful. It's much like a therapist/patient relationship. We started off some kind of bizar friendship in where I felt like a teacher towards a child, I always pulling, he always coming towards me, and then everytime when he came, he ran away, literally, like he got burned or something. In synastry when people impact this house, there is often sort of confessional that occurs. This is the 1st time I've ever felt like I've met my other half.. my soulmate. Thats an aspect of a battle between the Mars person & the 12th house person. I dont know if he really loves me but Ive never felt this connected with someone before. Does that sound reasonable with his neptune being in my 12th house? has Sun conjunct Saturn, they natrually have a hard time showing their affections and are very fatherly, 12th house gives you a very spiritual feeling almost like they could be your soulmate, it can be pretty intense ad consuming so if your not very spiritual/aware of yourself or in a good place in life, you might have a hard time feeling this energy or wanting to accept it, its different, its not so much lustful, its just friggin beautiful, you wanna make love to that person and cuddle them, i also have an empty 12th housei could love this energy so much possibly because aqua venuses that land there most of time trine my moon.i feel like if someones planets fall in 12th AND also aspect sun/moon/asc, youll be able to accept and recieve this awesome energy more. Questions like "Why do I feel so attracted to this person?" seems to come to mind when they are in each other's presence. Can he just not see it because of this placement? Glad that its OVER!! . Sadly, I was the house person and hopelessly in love, while the Venus person would not admit their feelings even though we both knew they did feel for me, just like I felt for them.. Actually, the guy told me "I love you, *insert my name here*" while we were in class, but we barely knew each other and I didn't know if he was being serious.. later on he denied it said it was a joke (but it wasn't). Will this ever end!?!?? I have also experienced it as not wanting anyone to know about the relationship or not knowing where you stand. I have Jupiter sun and mars in his 12th house in cancer and I really hope I didnt hurt him. Now i understand the mystery of the house that touch our soul. The North Node represents our souls goal in this l Mercury in Partners 1st house You will inspire easy communication with your partner. My ex and I had our suns in each others 12th. even when its painful between us this pull makes me want to continue with him so I did not want him to feel my pain yet he could and tried to finish things cos of itbut then we couldnt seem to leave them for more than 3 days anyway, Yep not sure what to call it a relationship, love,, obsession, infatuation, One good and beautiful thing between us which feels like the work of this placement is this soul journeying thing when we are physically together(i feel like when we are close its like we spark something off in each other which creates deep peace, ecstasy and brings us to feel our own souls thru each otherit is very healing)he says i relax him instantly. Guess that his Sun/Gem didnt like me pursuing him, but he toyed with me from time to time as he was, natch, curious about how I worked. Venus is a beneficial planet in astrology. W. hen someone's Venus falls in your 1st house, that person probably finds you physically attractive. Plus we both have gemini suns. But we do know a lot more about it than we did some time ago. Best wishes to you darling and thank you for sharing your story :), I just read the previous 12th house story and the aspects are nearly the same as with the guy I am seeing. But really what you also might be feeling is the Pluto Square Sun as well, that is another energy in itself that draws two people like Moth to flame:) the 12th house has roots in the past and most certainly is Karmic so perhaps that explains why it can go either way. Sometimes the experience in this house is painful other times it's purely magical.